It's my last week at a job I've had for the last two years. It's not the first time I resign, I've done it before, yet there's something about quitting that reminds me of breaking up.
Think about it: staying in a bad job is just like staying in a bad relationship. You've been there a few years, the routine has taken over. It's not exciting and as new as when you first started because, let's face it, you know all there is to know and nothing unexpected ever happens anymore. But you stay because it gives you a sense a comfort, of security. You know you're going to get that pay check at the end of the month just like you know you have someone to watch TV with on Sunday afternoon.
I remember the beginning: I felt like I could change the world. The possibilities were endless and I was avid to learn and give it my all. And then somewhere along the line, I got bored. I stopped making an effort because I wasn't motivated anymore, and slowly but surely, I realized I was unhappy. And once you admit that to yourself, there is no turning back.
And so you start thinking about other possibilities. What else is out there for me? Is there a chance I could find something I'm really going to be passionate about? There's the fear that you wont. That you will not find anything else, just like when you break-up there's that fear that you're making a mistake, that you might never find someone who wants to be with you again. But as the weeks pass, you somber more and more into your unhappiness and decide you must leave even if it's scary. And so you collect all your courage and finally do it. You quit. You break-up. And the relief feels wonderful. The other party might be stunned... many times, they don't see it coming --and many times, they do. In any case, they will try to convince you to stay. They will tell you that it's scary out there, that times are rough, that jobs aren't growing on trees and that there's one man for every seven woman. And you will hesitate, because its human nature.
But most of the time, you will be so proud and relieved that you finally had the courage to end it, that you will not hesitate long enough to change your mind.
You will look ahead and get excited about all the new possibilities.
I spend a lot of time wondering what I'm doing with my life. I ask myself a lot of questions, which you know if you've been reading my blog. And I know I'm not alone because I have these conversations with people around me all the time. It's become harder and harder to make a choice about the future. To commit to one job is like committing to one man. In order to know what you want, you have to explore, change, learn about what you like and what you don't like. And each time it takes you one step ahead in your journey.
Wish me luck in mine!
Think about it: staying in a bad job is just like staying in a bad relationship. You've been there a few years, the routine has taken over. It's not exciting and as new as when you first started because, let's face it, you know all there is to know and nothing unexpected ever happens anymore. But you stay because it gives you a sense a comfort, of security. You know you're going to get that pay check at the end of the month just like you know you have someone to watch TV with on Sunday afternoon.
I remember the beginning: I felt like I could change the world. The possibilities were endless and I was avid to learn and give it my all. And then somewhere along the line, I got bored. I stopped making an effort because I wasn't motivated anymore, and slowly but surely, I realized I was unhappy. And once you admit that to yourself, there is no turning back.
And so you start thinking about other possibilities. What else is out there for me? Is there a chance I could find something I'm really going to be passionate about? There's the fear that you wont. That you will not find anything else, just like when you break-up there's that fear that you're making a mistake, that you might never find someone who wants to be with you again. But as the weeks pass, you somber more and more into your unhappiness and decide you must leave even if it's scary. And so you collect all your courage and finally do it. You quit. You break-up. And the relief feels wonderful. The other party might be stunned... many times, they don't see it coming --and many times, they do. In any case, they will try to convince you to stay. They will tell you that it's scary out there, that times are rough, that jobs aren't growing on trees and that there's one man for every seven woman. And you will hesitate, because its human nature.
But most of the time, you will be so proud and relieved that you finally had the courage to end it, that you will not hesitate long enough to change your mind.
You will look ahead and get excited about all the new possibilities.
I spend a lot of time wondering what I'm doing with my life. I ask myself a lot of questions, which you know if you've been reading my blog. And I know I'm not alone because I have these conversations with people around me all the time. It's become harder and harder to make a choice about the future. To commit to one job is like committing to one man. In order to know what you want, you have to explore, change, learn about what you like and what you don't like. And each time it takes you one step ahead in your journey.
Wish me luck in mine!
very true and well said. love your forward writing,very smooth to read
ReplyDeletethank you thank you thank you :)
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